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Self Love Challenge: Selfie Challenge

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As my self love challenge series comes to an end, I was planning on talking about saying No and making powerful requests. Then I saw the video below on the Today Show and redirected my course. I decided that this self love challenge should be about knowledge, sharing that knowledge and about being conscious of the inside as well as the outside of your body in a much more literal sense than the old adage that “beauty is within.” Then teach what you learn to the women and girls around you – pay it forward (or backward if that be the case).

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I LOVE that they have older mother and daughters on this show. It seems like everything is directed at Mom’s with little girls. What happens when those little girls aren’t so little anymore? I also love how they talk about what they learn from each other. I have learned my greatest lessons from my 3 girls – and I learn more from them each and every day.

Cameron makes a good point that most people don’t know the science of their bodies. Many of us have learned to count calories but don’t differentiate the type of calories. She also says that our skin is a good indication of what is going on inside. We tend to forget that as we reach for remedies that are trying to cure from the outside in instead of the inside out. I remember reading an analogy once that our bodies are an aquarium – well, could your fish live in yours?

This is also a reminder that whether they are big or small, they learn from what we model to them. If we are worried about our big butts in the mirror, then they are going to worry about big butts in the mirror. We pass our neurosis onto them. Some gain the strength to kick those old neurosis to the curb, but more often they spend their lives carting them around with them. You can tell them it’s about the beauty inside. You can tell them how beautiful they are. At some age they may even believe you. But in that in between space, remember what you model to them. It will make a much bigger difference than what you tell them.


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  1. Pam 03/28/2014 at 2:49 pm

    Great post! Thank you for sharing, Ronda.
    I have four daughters ranging in age from 4 to 18. Working to help them have a positive body image has been super important to me. Recently I was diagnosed with MS. I have been taking really good care of my nutrition and fitness for many years, so the first feeling I had was that my body was betraying me after all I had done to care for it so vigilantly (I don’t eat any refined sugar, gave up wheat and recently gave up dairy, too.) Since my diagnosis I have been on a journey to find out the best way to take care of my body so I can give it the tools it needs to heal itself. Along with the recommended medications from my neurologist and naturopath, I am feeling so much better inside and out. I talk to myself daily about how much I love and care for, listen to and appreciate my body.
    This experience of getting a chronic, lifelong condition has been transforming and beautiful. Through this transformation, I realize that teaching my girls proper nutrition is big part of a healthy body image. We can’t expect kid’s to “figure it out” if they see their moms eating poorly and not working hard to make the best of what they are handed in life. I feel like by showing my girls that MS doesn’t have me and I have the power to make good, healthy choices to improve my wellness, I’m teaching them that they are more powerful than any situation they find themselves in.